The Difference Maker | John C. Maxwell

Summary of: The Difference Maker: Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset
By: John C. Maxwell


In John C. Maxwell’s insightful book, ‘The Difference Maker: Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset’, readers will uncover the transformative power of their attitude on their personal and professional lives. The book delves into the impact of nature, nurture, and circumstances on your outlook, while highlighting the significance of adopting a positive attitude in discovering your full potential. Maxwell demonstrates that a great attitude is essential alongside diligence, character, and skill to achieve success. Readers will explore the importance of personal growth and change as well as practical people principles and ways to handle life’s obstacles with a positive attitude.

Attitude is Everything

Our attitudes are shaped by nature and nurture. Encouragement and discouragement have the power to leave a lasting impression on us. As we age, we have greater control over our environment but our attitudes can still be influenced by those around us. Attitude and reality are intertwined and critical to success. Psychiatrist and author, Viktor Frankl, who survived Auschwitz, believed that choosing our attitude is the ultimate exercise of our free will. While attitude alone cannot work miracles, it has the power to shape our behavior and affect the outcome of our lives.

The Power of Attitude

A great attitude requires a continual commitment to personal growth and change. The better your attitude, the more likely you will be to overcome difficulties, grow and move forward. Four “people principles” can help cultivate a positive attitude when dealing with others. The Lens Principle emphasizes the way you perceive other people largely depends on your own attitude. The Pain Principle highlights that if you haven’t dealt with a significant pain in your own life, you will continue to experience it in your interactions with others. The Elevator Principle highlights that either you support or limit others- depending on your attitude. Lastly, the Learning Principle underscores that every person you meet has wisdom to share, and learning from others is a matter of your attitude.

The Power of Attitude

Life is filled with difficult times that can teach us valuable lessons, and a positive attitude is often the only way through turbulent waters. You can change your attitude by first accepting that change is within your power and then identifying negative thoughts that need to be replaced with positive ones. By consciously altering your daily patterns and habits, you can support your decision to maintain a happy attitude. Positive thinking can change your emotional responses and increase your chances of success. Ultimately, your attitude shapes your beliefs and influences your ability to persevere and aim high despite the odds. As former Baltimore Orioles manager Earl Weaver used to say when he didn’t agree with an umpire’s call, “Are you gonna get any better, or is this it?” Keep pushing yourself to improve and change, and the results will follow.

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

Challenges are an inevitable part of life, and even the most successful people understand this fact. Refusing to recognize them leads to a negative attitude. Denial is a useless coping mechanism. The five biggest challenges that everyone face includes discouragement, change, problems, fear, and failure. Recognizing these hurdles and finding ways to overcome them is the key to a successful life.

Overcoming Discouragement

Learn to build resilience by seeking the right perspective, mindset, and people. Successful individuals expect and plan for hurdles, repeat positive affirmations, and view setbacks as opportunities.

Discouragement can be a formidable enemy of resilience, but it doesn’t have to be. Life is full of little discouraging moments, but how you react to them often determines your overall success. To develop resilience, learn to roll with the punches and gracefully handle setbacks. Seek out friends who are “lifters” and know how to encourage you when needed.

One of the best habits to build is repeating positive affirmations to yourself. Put discouragement in a broader context, and stay pragmatic. Successful people expect hurdles and accept them as normal while planning accordingly. They face their challenges head-on, fostering a proactive attitude instead of a fearful one.

It’s essential to maintain the right perspective. When you face discouragement, you can look for blame outside yourself or choose to view it as an opportunity for growth. The right mindset enhances your resilience and enables you to bounce back from setbacks.

Napoleon Hill discovered that successful people persist despite adversity. They make decisions when things are good and stick to them when the going gets rough, engaging in the “Peak to Peak Principle.” From a “peak” perspective, you can better assess the lay of the land and your destination. That global view may get lost in the valleys, but by focusing on the destination and continuing to move forward, you preserve your resilience and tenacity.

Adopt a proactive attitude, surround yourself with supporters, and maintain perspective to overcome discouragement and build resilience.

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